What we don't see often controls much of our inner and outer worlds.
In any healthy relationship, setting well-defined boundaries between yourself and the other is essential for harmony in the relationship, as well as good self-care.
What do we mean by "boundaries" and how does our energy and the other person's energy play into these? Boundaries enable us to take responsibility for our own thoughts and emotions, and allow the other person to be self-empowered and self-aware about their own state of mind. When we connect with another person on a deep emotional level, these boundaries can sometimes disappear in moments of intimacy, or become blurred and confusing over the course of the relationship... which can often be the seeds of chaos, disorder, and conflict in the relationship. Plus these intense emotional experiences can leave you feeling so lost in your own emotions that you lose perspective about yourself, as well as your own unique identity (out of the context of the relationship).
And during these moments, we can wonder whether the emotions we're experiencing are truly our own, or are actually our partner's emotions that we're holding on to as part of how we understand what it means to be in a loving relationship.
And for intuitive and deeply empathetic people - especially if you're in the healing arts or caretaker professions - the "taking on" of other's emotions can be a natural and instinctual response... Even if it's not immediately apparent, and even in situations amidst a crowd of unfamiliar people. And of course, this can be overwhelming, and be disruptive to a person's energetic system.
How to Set Healthy Energetic Boundaries
One final thought on this topic. When it comes to the power of our energy systems... and how our thoughts can actually take up presence even if we can't see them. I recently took an Energy Boundaries class at the HCH Institute and one of the most fascinating exercises was when we used these copper dousing rods.
Two people face each other, with Person 1 holding the rods (one in each hand). Person 2 closes their eyes, and imagines feeling intense joy by cultivating a memory or thinking of someone who makes them happy. After being at a neutral position pointing at Person 2, the rods moved wide open at happy thoughts. When Person 2 imagined sad thoughts (prompted by Person 1), the rods would swing in the other direction and clash into each other.
When I performed the exercise as Person 2, I played with scale instead of emotions. Closing my eyes, I imagined my energetic system increasing in size, expanding out of the building and into the cosmos. The rods swung wide open, and my classmates were amazed (I could hear their gasps). I then imagined shrinking my energetic body down to the size of an atom, and at that thought, the rods swung back towards each other, and I could hear them clink against each other.
We are much more than our eyes can see, my friends. Get in touch with your own inner power, and how harmonizing your energetic boundaries can assist in your healing.
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