One of the most common requests I receive from my hypnotherapy clients is help in dealing with anxiety, panic attacks, and other highly emotional states of being. While each person's experience of anxiety or panic attacks may be unique, a common theme is a feeling of being out of control. The experience of feeling out of control often brings on a panic attack, and when we’re in the throes of one, we fear we’ll never gain control, which only serves to add fuel to the anxiety flames.
What can we do - in the moment - to stop this endless spiral?
And that phrase - in the moment - is the key to the answer. When we’re experiencing anxiety, we are not living in the moment. We’re either mourning the past… we might be holding feelings of shame, regret, or remorse. Another possibility is that we might be fearing what will happen tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or next year. It could be a planned upcoming stressful event or the possibility of one… it doesn’t matter, the point is that when we’re anxious we are not living in the present.
Actually, we want to flee the present moment by any means necessary, because in the moment, we’re spiraling down a panic vortex.
Which reminds me of an analogy… imagine you’re swimming in the ocean and you’re caught in a riptide and being carried out to sea. Swimmers are taught to do the opposite of what feels instinctive - which is to swim directly towards the shore, and this might be - by the way - against the current. Instead, we all know to swim parallel to the shore and allow the current to gently push you back to the shore, while you also swim in a lateral direction. In this particular case, surrendering is both a courageous and a wise act because it is what saves you.
So does that mean I’m suggesting that you surrender to anxiety and panic?
No. Not at all. Because surrendering to anxiety and panic means to remain anxious, maintaining the status quo, and allowing it to rule your life. What I’m proposing instead... is to surrender to the fight against ‘that which is’. Explicitly, that which exists now. When we’re panicking, we are fighting against that which is. We are denying what is happening right now, we are trying to escape it by focusing on the past, or by worrying about the future. The panic is a primal instinct that is kicking in based on our ‘fight or flight’ / adrenal glands.
We can surrender the fight against what is by simply focusing on the present moment, and every characteristic that you’re aware of. You can do this in a variety of ways:
How do these tactics work? Aren’t they too simple? Actually, they work because your conscious mind needs a job to do.
Anxiety-inducing conditions can trigger your adrenal glands to make you feel as if your life is in danger, and these cues are coming from an overactive, conscious mind and they are false positives. In order to disarm these triggers, we distract the conscious mind by giving it a job to do. Focusing on your breath or counting objects around you gives your conscious mind something else to do rather than dream up scary past or future scenarios that are totally unnecessary and unhelpful.
Of course, these strategies can help us in the midst of an anxiety experience, but how do we stop anxious emotions from arising in the first place? That’s where hypnotherapy can help.
Remember that your conscious mind uses only 10% of your brain’s overall energy, and is responsible for short-term memory, planning, thinking, and analyzing. The subconscious mind uses 90% of the brain’s energy and controls much more of who we are: our emotions, our long-term memories, our creativity, our involuntary bodily responses, including our ‘fight or flight’ responses, among others.
Using only the conscious mind to try to heal a problem that began in our subconscious, resides there, and is experienced mostly through subconscious impulses is not a winning strategy.
Hypnotherapists help their clients get to the root cause of their anxiety, and heal it, by accessing their subconscious through trance, and other energy healing modalities (e.g. sandplay therapy, Reiki, EFT, and more).
Ready to experience it for yourself? Schedule an appointment with me today.
Hypnotherapy can offer dramatic results for a variety of emotional, mental and physical issues. The challenge is that there are many cultural myths and stereotypes to overcome in order to be open to trying hypnosis as a therapeutic modality.
Here are a few of them you may have heard or may have had, and how you an overcome them for greater healing and self-awareness:
1. You'll embarrass yourself. Let's face it. Humiliation is often part of a why an audience finds a stage hypnotists show so entertaining. We're laughing at the person who's "under a spell".
Why this is a false belief. The difference between hypnosis and a stage hypnotist's act lies in intent and consent. The ethical hypnotherapist has an intention of serving her client with full integrity and confidentiality, obtaining a client's consent and reminding them that they have full control of their experience. Hypnotherapists are therapeutic guides whereas stage hypnotists are entertainers.
2. You won’t remember anything. Your hypnotherapist will ask you what your goals for your session are, and among them will be that you will bring back all you discovered and learned during your session. She'll reinforce these by using post-hypnotic suggestions.
Emotional, mental, physical and spiritual integration is a core benefit of hypnotherapy. I would imagine you'd want to remember all you can discover about yourself during a guided meditation or trance session. Much of the value of this healing modality lies in our ability to quickly get to the root cause of our imbalances or sense of unease. This relies on remembering the key details and "take-aways" of each experience. (Anchors are a great tool for this, look for a blog article on this soon).
3. You’ll be triggered at some distant point in the future. To be honest, the discoveries you make during your sessions may continue to unfold over the coming days and weeks. That said, you'll have more tools and support systems to rely on to help you during these moments.
EFT is one of the best tools for integrating new emotional and spiritual discoveries into your energetic system and consciousness. This transformative process involves tapping on your energetic meridians while acknowledging and accepting what is. Additionally, while tapping, you also express your desired outcomes (e.g. affirmations). This clears any lingering blocks and "takes the edge of" lingering emotional triggers or physical manifestations of pain and anxiety.
4. You’ll disclose secrets without your consent.
See number #1 above where we talk about the importance of ethics, integrity, consent and confidentiality. Despite the fact that the state of CA does not license hypnotherapists, you can still do your own homework to validate your hypnotherapist has your best interests in mind. Before meeting with them, have a call or email exchange to determine what their stance is with respect to the core values of consent and confidentiality. During your face-to-face interview, at the start of the session, if you still have concerns in this area, ask your hypnotherapist to record your session so you listen back to what their specific words are, how directive they are in their communications, and in general, how they hold the space for you. Remember that you are always in control, which brings us to the last myth to debunk.
5. You'll lose control. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis which means in essence - you are always in control. Without your active consent, it's not actually possible to be hypnotized. And, the more resistant or tense someone is to hypnosis, the more time it may take for them to relax enough to be hypnotized. So as long as your hypnotherapist holds a space of self-empowered and non-directive healing, you'll be grounded and aware of your place in this experience as well as have the courage to let go for deep healing and transformation.
When it comes to hypnotherapy, the more empowered you feel during the experience, the more transformative the experience. Feel free to ask your hypnotherapist for what you need to feel whole, grounded, and complete before, during, and after your session.
Stay tuned and good luck on your road to self-healing. After all, you're always in the driver's seat.
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