Harmonize Your Energetic Boundaries

What we don't see often controls much of our inner and outer worlds.

In any healthy relationship, setting well-defined boundaries between yourself and the other is essential for harmony in the relationship, as well as good self-care.

What do we mean by "boundaries" and how does our energy and the other person's energy play into these? Boundaries enable us to take responsibility for our own thoughts and emotions, and allow the other person to be self-empowered and self-aware about their own state of mind. When we connect with another person on a deep emotional level, these boundaries can sometimes disappear in moments of intimacy, or become blurred and confusing over the course of the relationship... which can often be the seeds of chaos, disorder, and conflict in the relationship. Plus these intense emotional experiences can leave you feeling so lost in your own emotions that you lose perspective about yourself, as well as your own unique identity (out of the context of the relationship).

And during these moments, we can wonder whether the emotions we're experiencing are truly our own, or are actually our partner's emotions that we're holding on to as part of how we understand what it means to be in a loving relationship. 

And for intuitive and deeply empathetic people - especially if you're in the healing arts or caretaker professions - the "taking on" of other's emotions can be a natural and instinctual response... Even if it's not immediately apparent, and even in situations amidst a crowd of unfamiliar people. And of course, this can be overwhelming, and be disruptive to a person's energetic system. 

How to Set Healthy Energetic Boundaries

• Establish consistent self-care rituals for centering and grounding (e.g. meditation, exercise, nutrition, etc.).
• Balance Your Chakras - There are a number of meditations and techniques to use here, and I include one in this blog article. The short version: imagine breathing in healing light into each of the chakras. And since each chakra has its own associated symbol, color, and intention, it's helpful to focus your attention on each of these as you balance your overall energy system.  
• Check-in with your internal GPS during quiet moments as well as during moments of intense emotions - having a baseline helps hone your inner wisdom.
• Develop and implement energetic protection techniques such as:
  • Inner Fire - From your solar plexus, imagine a golden fiery light forming there and gradually become larger and larger and as it extends a few feet from your body, hold it there. Set the intention to keep this as an energetic level of protection. Any chaos energy that comes in your direction will burn before it enters your energy system.
  • Bubble of Protection - Imagine a transparent but semi-permeable bubble forming around your body. It's filled with golden light (or any other color that cultivates a feeling a safety, acceptance and self-love). The only energy that can transcend into the bubble is divine or source energy that has your highest good in its intention.
  • Disco Ball of Mirrors - If you're a disco music fan like me, you may gravitate to this concept. Place yourself inside a disco ball. The mirrors reflect all energies that do not have your highest good in mind. The disco ball can be filled with magical Donna Summer music (or Lady Gaga or your own fave) as well as golden light. And the only energy that passes in between those tiny square mirrors is divine source energy.
  • Other visual images - Please add any suggestions in the comments section for ideas you've used to help set and protect your energetic boundaries.
  • Chanting mantras and singing - Your energetic system thrills to using and hearing your own voice. Whether its singing in your car or chanting your favorite mantra while in meditation, music can heal your soul, and feed your energetic system with vitality. Whenever you don't "feel like yourself", play your favorite tune on your favorite app or device. It's basic but can help build more vitality into your energetic body.

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One final thought on this topic. When it comes to the power of our energy systems... and how our thoughts can actually take up presence even if we can't see them. I recently took an Energy Boundaries class at the HCH Institute and one of the most fascinating exercises was when we used these copper dousing rods.

​Two people face each other, with Person 1 holding the rods (one in each hand). Person 2 closes their eyes, and imagines feeling intense joy by cultivating a  memory or thinking of someone who makes them happy. After being at a neutral position pointing at Person 2, the rods moved wide open at happy thoughts. When Person 2 imagined sad thoughts (prompted by Person 1), the rods would swing in the other direction and clash into each other. 

When I performed the exercise as Person 2, I played with scale instead of emotions. Closing my eyes, I imagined my energetic system increasing in size, expanding out of the building and into the cosmos. The rods swung wide open, and my classmates were amazed (I could hear their gasps). I then imagined shrinking my energetic body down to the size of an atom, and at that thought, the rods swung back towards each other, and I could hear them clink against each other.

We are much more than our eyes can see, my friends. Get in touch with your own inner power, and how harmonizing your energetic boundaries can assist in your healing.